Dear Lord! I am struggling with my girls, in particular L. She is such a challenge. I am running out of solutions, punishments, and my patience has long been gone.
First the threat of a time-out worked. Then we moved on to our charts of x’s for poor behavior and smiley faces for good. Next it was “go to your room” which I hate to do because I don’t want their room to be considered negative. And now I’ve brought back spanking.
Honestly she pushes my buttons and just goes and goes until I snap. Lately I’ve found I am out of control and screaming at her like an army drill sergeant. That gets her attention but I end up angry with myself, usually I lose my voice and then I feel awful for being so psychotic!
People say don’t spank because it only teaches them to hit. Well I’ve noticed those people don’t have kids or are lying…or on some serious mellow pills or have nannies to deal with the kids. Of course if you are a teacher you can’t spank not to mention kids DO NOT behave for their teachers like they do for their parents. My kids hit even when I never spanked so….
People say don’t yell at your kids because then they just learn to yell. Really? They came out of the womb yelling.
People say don’t rush your kids because that is yet another form of abuse. Well we live on the Eastern Shore and one of my kids has adopted the move as slow as you can mentality so if I don’t rush her we will get nowhere very slowly.
So now I give a quick warning letting the girls know that if they don’t stop whatever behavior is unacceptable they will get sent to the corner or an x on their chart. If that doesn’t work it’s a spank and usually up to their room.
They know once they start temper tantruming or crying it’s upstairs until they calm down.
So give me some opinions, help, solutions, tips, or just some “I hear ya’s!” Otherwise I might be sent to a mental institution.
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